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Simply Solo Spotlight: Just Like My Favorite Pair of Panties Today’s Simply Solo Spotlight is written by S.D. McKenzie, a certified relationship coach and founder of WhatTheLove™ relationship and singles life coaching, as well as the director of marketing for newly launched dating site, MeetJuliet.com. I think that today’s guest post is a hoot – the metaphor is very fitting and I know that many of us have been in this situation before. Maybe this post will be an eye opener for some of you out there. Quick … Read More

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Balance In All Things

I’m taking a short cut and reposting on of my favorite articles from my first blog attempt. As I have worked with singles for the past decade I’ve noticed how bitterness about a failed relationship can hold people in a state of limbo where they just can’t begin a new with someone else. They believe that they are destined to never find a good person and this belief is a self fulfilling prophesy. They make the same bad choices again and again. They enter a relationship with the same bad attitude; believing it will fail or that there is just no such things as a good man or woman. I honestly think most of the trouble people have with relationships start with their attitude before they ever even get in.

Ever wished you could find the perfect man ? Someone who wanted to fulfill your ever wish or dream. A prince of a man who wanted nothing more than to make you happy. Are you so jaded after dating for so many years or after a nasty break-up that you doubt that such a man exists. Have you ever stopped to think that he maybe like Santa Claus in a way.  You stop believing in the magic so he no longer exists. You stopped writing to him and searching for him in the sky on Christmas Eve. Maybe you can’t find him because you no longer believe he is out there.

Bitterness can blind you if you let it . It can make you lose the ability to see someone delightful because you are too busy looking for the flaws. Disillusionment can turn you into an angry old spinster of a character. Rather certain Mr Right would be frightened off by her too. Maybe Mr Wonderful needs you to sit in his lap and tell him what it is you want and believe that he wants you to have it. You may wake up and find everything you had wished for right before your eyes. If you can still believe that Mr Right exists like you believed that Santa Claus did when you were a child.

“Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.” – Erich Fromm (1900-1980)

I’m taking a short cut and reposting on of my favorite articles from my first blog attempt. As I have worked with singles for the past decade I’ve noticed how bitterness about a failed relationship can hold people in a state of limbo where they just can’t begin a new with someone else. They believe that they are destined to never find a good person and this belief is a self fulfilling prophesy. They make the same bad choices again and again. They enter a relationship with the same bad attitude; believing it will fail or that there is just no such things as a good man or woman. I honestly think most of the trouble people have with relationships start with their attitude before they ever even get in.

Ever wished you could find the perfect man ? Someone who wanted to fulfill your ever wish or dream. A prince of a man who wanted nothing more than to make you happy. Are you so jaded after dating for so many years or after a nasty break-up that you doubt that such a man exists. Have you ever stopped to think that he maybe like Santa Claus in a way.  You stop believing in the magic so he no longer exists. You stopped writing to him and searching for him in the sky on Christmas Eve. Maybe you can’t find him because you no longer believe he is out there.

Bitterness can blind you if you let it . It can make you lose the ability to see someone delightful because you are too busy looking for the flaws. Disillusionment can turn you into an angry old spinster of a character. Rather certain Mr Right would be frightened off by her too. Maybe Mr Wonderful needs you to sit in his lap and tell him what it is you want and believe that he wants you to have it. You may wake up and find everything you had wished for right before your eyes. If you can still believe that Mr Right exists like you believed that Santa Claus did when you were a child.

“Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.” – Erich Fromm (1900-1980)

I Wanna know What Love Is~

How do you know when It’s real love? Can you really tell if someone is the one? What is the formula to measure a suitor by to be certain that it is more than physical attraction or smoke and mirrors.

I define true love and a person worthy of real love as a plus in one’s life. This person adds value and happiness to you, even after the first stage of hearts and flowers pass and you really know who they are, what they want out of life, and they still have your admiration. There is nothing selfish about true love. You want nothing but the best for that person. You put their needs and happiness above your own. I only realized what true love was the day I held my  new-born child in my arms. I also knew how very much I was loved by my parents and God at the moment. True love puts self last and is filled with joy from the happiness of their beloved. Unlike romantic love our children don’t have to earn or deserve this love.

Love that is real and will last is love and devotion that is deserved and earned. You can love someone who does not deserve that love and trust. All of us have seen relationships like that. Love is a feeling of devotion and attraction. To act upon this feeling is a choice that we all have. love that is real and worth it adds more joy and happiness than sorrow. Simple as that.

Love is work. To be in a loving and productive relationship will take work, effort, and investment of time. The pay off will be a relationship that is cherished and adds value to your life.  You want to be the best person you can be thanks to this love. You can know someone is truly in love with you when they live their life for you and your happiness too. No one is ever this self less all the time .  A good guide for measuring a relationship is am I happy with this person and do I make this person happy? Simple when you think about it that way.

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.


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