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Don’t Stop Believing~Seek and Ye Shall Find.

I’m taking a short cut and reposting on of my favorite articles from my first blog attempt. As I have worked with singles for the past decade I’ve noticed how bitterness about a failed relationship can hold people in a state of limbo where they just can’t begin a new with someone else. They believe that they are destined to never find a good person and this belief is a self fulfilling prophesy. They make the same bad choices again and again. They enter a relationship with the same bad attitude; believing it will fail or that there is just no such things as a good man or woman. I honestly think most of the trouble people have with relationships start with their attitude before they ever even get in.

Ever wished you could find the perfect man ? Someone who wanted to fulfill your ever wish or dream. A prince of a man who wanted nothing more than to make you happy. Are you so jaded after dating for so many years or after a nasty break-up that you doubt that such a man exists. Have you ever stopped to think that he maybe like Santa Claus in a way.  You stop believing in the magic so he no longer exists. You stopped writing to him and searching for him in the sky on Christmas Eve. Maybe you can’t find him because you no longer believe he is out there.

Bitterness can blind you if you let it . It can make you lose the ability to see someone delightful because you are too busy looking for the flaws. Disillusionment can turn you into an angry old spinster of a character. Rather certain Mr Right would be frightened off by her too. Maybe Mr Wonderful needs you to sit in his lap and tell him what it is you want and believe that he wants you to have it. You may wake up and find everything you had wished for right before your eyes. If you can still believe that Mr Right exists like you believed that Santa Claus did when you were a child.

“Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.” – Erich Fromm (1900-1980)

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Don't Stop Believing~Seek and Ye Shall Find.

I’m taking a short cut and reposting on of my favorite articles from my first blog attempt. As I have worked with singles for the past decade I’ve noticed how bitterness about a failed relationship can hold people in a state of limbo where they just can’t begin a new with someone else. They believe that they are destined to never find a good person and this belief is a self fulfilling prophesy. They make the same bad choices again and again. They enter a relationship with the same bad attitude; believing it will fail or that there is just no such things as a good man or woman. I honestly think most of the trouble people have with relationships start with their attitude before they ever even get in.

Ever wished you could find the perfect man ? Someone who wanted to fulfill your ever wish or dream. A prince of a man who wanted nothing more than to make you happy. Are you so jaded after dating for so many years or after a nasty break-up that you doubt that such a man exists. Have you ever stopped to think that he maybe like Santa Claus in a way.  You stop believing in the magic so he no longer exists. You stopped writing to him and searching for him in the sky on Christmas Eve. Maybe you can’t find him because you no longer believe he is out there.

Bitterness can blind you if you let it . It can make you lose the ability to see someone delightful because you are too busy looking for the flaws. Disillusionment can turn you into an angry old spinster of a character. Rather certain Mr Right would be frightened off by her too. Maybe Mr Wonderful needs you to sit in his lap and tell him what it is you want and believe that he wants you to have it. You may wake up and find everything you had wished for right before your eyes. If you can still believe that Mr Right exists like you believed that Santa Claus did when you were a child.

“Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.” – Erich Fromm (1900-1980)

I Wanna know What Love Is~

How do you know when It’s real love? Can you really tell if someone is the one? What is the formula to measure a suitor by to be certain that it is more than physical attraction or smoke and mirrors.

I define true love and a person worthy of real love as a plus in one’s life. This person adds value and happiness to you, even after the first stage of hearts and flowers pass and you really know who they are, what they want out of life, and they still have your admiration. There is nothing selfish about true love. You want nothing but the best for that person. You put their needs and happiness above your own. I only realized what true love was the day I held my  new-born child in my arms. I also knew how very much I was loved by my parents and God at the moment. True love puts self last and is filled with joy from the happiness of their beloved. Unlike romantic love our children don’t have to earn or deserve this love.

Love that is real and will last is love and devotion that is deserved and earned. You can love someone who does not deserve that love and trust. All of us have seen relationships like that. Love is a feeling of devotion and attraction. To act upon this feeling is a choice that we all have. love that is real and worth it adds more joy and happiness than sorrow. Simple as that.

Love is work. To be in a loving and productive relationship will take work, effort, and investment of time. The pay off will be a relationship that is cherished and adds value to your life.  You want to be the best person you can be thanks to this love. You can know someone is truly in love with you when they live their life for you and your happiness too. No one is ever this self less all the time .  A good guide for measuring a relationship is am I happy with this person and do I make this person happy? Simple when you think about it that way.

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.


Singles and Regrets ~Why Romance is top of the List

Way too often when asked what thing in life people regret the answer is that chance I didn’t take when it comes to love,relationships and romance. If “onlys” and “I should have” eat singles up inside. Why did I not go out with that one when I had the chance and why did I not tell them how I felt top the list of things people regret in life.

Women tend to name romantic regrets almost twice as often as men and feel they are most responsible when a romantic opportunity is lost. Psychologists have found women are raised in the US to believe that maintaining a relationship is their role in life and are  more likely to blame themselves when something goes wrong in a relationship.

Are you afraid to take a chance on love? Stop letting fear keep you down. Take a chance and tell that certain someone how you feel. What’s the worst thing that can happen? They don’t feel the same way as you do? So what, at least you will know that the feelings you have are a waste of time and you can move forward.

Regret can be a powerful tool if used correctly. We can learn from the things that we regret not doing. We can take a chance and get out there and try  to find love and stop pinning for the one we can’t have or the one we let get away.  Take a chance and try something new. You’ll REGRET it if you don’t.

Stop Waiting Start Dating~

Free Online Dating Seminar With Dating Diva And Meet Juliet

Online dating has gone from a taboo, to a natural part of our single lifestyles. But for some, it still hasn’t brought them the results that they anticipated. It is the profile? The picture? Are you saying too much or too little? All of these are questions that any digital dater has asked and needed an answer to.

Then there is no place else you should be on Sunday, June 12th at 8:00 p.m. CST.

We’re sitting down for another chat with DatingDivaSites.com. Our resident “Dating Diva” will spill and dish on the key elements of making online dating site work for you, and she should know, she works and has worked with more than 20 sites–this means she’s an expert. In addition to making it work, she’s going to teach you a bit about online safety–after all, we want you to be single and safe.

Ok, so now you have the details…so register and tell a few friends!

So, here we go again, and if you missed Volume I: Where Ya At, don’t make the same mistake TWICE!

In the meanwhile, visit:

www.whatthelove.org and www.datingdivasites.com
AND to submit a question prior to the event, click Contact WTL on the WhatTheLove.org site.

ALL TIMES CENTRAL STANDARD TIME.

**This event will be recorded, and made available to all registrants (sometimes people register, but don’t make the call. It will not be available for public download.***

To register follow the link http://computerlovin.eventbrite.com/

Can it really work? Dating Online from a distance

 

You found that one in a million online, the catch: they live a million miles away.
A long distance relationship is a hard one to make-work but with care and effort, they CAN work. I’ve seen it happen with my own eyes. I have several friends that met their spouse in romance chat rooms. They lived great distances apart but made the relationship work by keeping in constant communication. There are several Internet communication programs that can make staying in contact easy and fun.
It’s important to take time to contact each other every day. You can e-mail, talk on the phone, or use an instant messenger program. E-mail can become the modern version of love letters that your grandmother still has stored away except that it’s much faster than the old snail mail and more convenient. No need for a stamp just press send and they’ve got mail! How about an instant message?
Take the step to visit each other and make that time special. Tell your friends and family that you and your sweetheart want to spend this time alone. Try to make sure you have nothing else to do but spend time with each other and spend it wisely. If you don’t put in the effort to see each other you will drift apart no matter how much you love each other. A Relationship needs physical contact in order to stay strong and keep it together.
Trust is important in a long distance relationship. Try not to panic and worry every time you call and don’t get an answer. Don’t assume just because your sweetie went out with friends that he or she is cheating on you. Trust is the key here. You can’t keep someone chained to a phone or computer waiting for you but as long as they are making the effort to stay in contact with you, relax.

With work and a little effort a long distance relationship can work well. There’s something very romantic about people that are so far apart yet being devoted to each other. Just remember to take the time to stay in daily contact and it could blossom into something that can last a lifetime.

Dating Now with Google Search

Have you ever asked a question and been told to try” Googling” it?  If you have a question about online dating now that’s a good answer. If you want a fast answer as to which of the follow is the best dating site now try it. You will find the answer to the question. Quality site, great people, friendly staff and fast fun is what you can find at these sites If you want niche dating now “google” it.
Interracial Dating Now
Military Dating Now
Black dating Now
Latino dating Now
Lesbian Dating Now
Gay Dating Now
Bisexual Dating Now
It’s what’s happening now in online dating sites that specialize in niche dating.
just go to google search and try it now. For fast free online dating search for the type of dating that you are
looking for with the word now. See what we mean. Go to Onlinedatingnow.net to see all that happening now in online.
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