Stop Wating ~ Start Dating!

I’m taking a short cut and reposting on of my favorite articles from my first blog attempt. As I have worked with singles for the past decade I’ve noticed how bitterness about a failed relationship can hold people in a state of limbo where they just can’t begin a new with someone else. They believe that they are destined to never find a good person and this belief is a self fulfilling prophesy. They make the same bad choices again and again. They enter a relationship with the same bad attitude; believing it will fail or that there is just no such things as a good man or woman. I honestly think most of the trouble people have with relationships start with their attitude before they ever even get in.

Ever wished you could find the perfect man ? Someone who wanted to fulfill your ever wish or dream. A prince of a man who wanted nothing more than to make you happy. Are you so jaded after dating for so many years or after a nasty break-up that you doubt that such a man exists. Have you ever stopped to think that he maybe like Santa Claus in a way.  You stop believing in the magic so he no longer exists. You stopped writing to him and searching for him in the sky on Christmas Eve. Maybe you can’t find him because you no longer believe he is out there.

Bitterness can blind you if you let it . It can make you lose the ability to see someone delightful because you are too busy looking for the flaws. Disillusionment can turn you into an angry old spinster of a character. Rather certain Mr Right would be frightened off by her too. Maybe Mr Wonderful needs you to sit in his lap and tell him what it is you want and believe that he wants you to have it. You may wake up and find everything you had wished for right before your eyes. If you can still believe that Mr Right exists like you believed that Santa Claus did when you were a child.

“Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.” – Erich Fromm (1900-1980)


Comments on: "Don't Stop Believing~Seek and Ye Shall Find." (12)

  1. wordsfallfrommyeyes said:

    I agree bitterness can blind you. I used to work in the Family Courts. Horrible bitterness there.

    • I can only imagine. My favorite part of my job is when I see people turn from their bitterness. Beautiful..but doesn’t happen enough. Thanks for stopping by to comment. come back to see me again..;)

  2. Great article
    Think the same can apply to being stuck in a dead marriage… attitude

  3. There is no usefulness whatsoever in bitterness, but it can be pervasive. It takes courage to admit bitterness and strength to overcome it. Great post, love! ooxx

    • I see it so often but the greatest part of what I do is seeing change and a tiny bit of hope. The next thing I see is happiness and before you know it, they have attracted a good relationship. Thank you for dropping by to see me…;)

  4. The picture says it all . Great article!

  5. Loved your analogy to Santa Clause: You stop believing in the magic so he no longer exists. Yep. Have to agree whole-heartily.

    I use the excuse that I never saw what love looked like. My folks were more like roommates. Never fighting; never loving. BUT a couple of my brothers have had successful long-term marriages so they figured it out even without seeing it in our home. Good for them!

    • Thank you for visiting and I think so too. You have to believe you can find what ever it is you are looking for. You have to believe in order to see it.

  6. The photo definitely captured my attention! Bitterness can affect you inside and out!

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